In today’s busy world, formal dining almost has become a thing of the past. But, as Tara Darby Rasheta, Program Development Director of Jon D. Williams Cotillions explains, it’s an important ritual for families to learn and practice regularly.
“Rituals and celebrations add joy to our lives and teach children skills that will serve them well. Understanding proper table etiquette and manners is an absolute necessity for social and business success. Practice makes perfect,” she says.
One of the most daunting aspects of formal dining is navigating a formal place setting. But Tara offers a few useful shortcuts.
“Utensils are placed in the order of use, from the outside in,” she says. “To remember which sides our bread and drink are on, make circles with each of your hands and lift your index fingers. Your left hand makes a ‘b’ for where your bread plate goes and your right hand a ‘d’ for where your drink goes.”
Tara’s Do’s and Don’ts:
DO make sure that centerpieces allow guests to see across the table to keep the conversation flowing.
DO have fun with napkins. Fold them, roll them or use a pretty ring. Napkins can really tie a whole table together.
DO make sure water goblets are filled, and bread and butter are ready to be passed before guests are seated. If serving salad, fill individual plates and place them at each setting.
DON’T put out dessert plates until the dessert course. It’s everyone’s favorite part, so save the surprise for later.
DON’T choose a centerpiece with an overpowering aroma. Stay away from scented candles and very fragrant flowers. You do not want the décor to upstage the meal.
DON’T let plates pile up. Clear plates and utensils as guests finish their salad and bread courses, then prepare and garnish the dinner plates in the kitchen. Before desert, clear all other dishes, including extra glasses and salt and pepper shakers.
Jon D. Williams Cotillions educates young people in the art of social skills. Registration for the Spring Denton County Cotillion will begin in early 2021. Students in fourth through seventh grades will learn about first impressions, communication, table manners, dining etiquette and more. Students will have an option of participating in classes held at Denton Country Club, or virtually through an online class option. Learn more about JDW Cotillion programs in Denton County and across the country at cotillion.com.
