Well, moms, you made it.
You made it through 2020, and finally, get to embark on a fresh year and hit that reset button. This reset button is SO needed for you as a human, a mom, and most importantly for your kids. They finally get to hear you stop talking about, and complaining about what a terrible year it has been.
If you are like me and have made a huge transition from being a fast-paced career mom in her power suit every day to a stay-at-home mom sporting her minimal selection of athleisure, you know that reaching 2021 has been a milestone we've been focusing on for months.
It's a learning curve to go from embracing new mom life in general, much less than having to adapt to being a working mom for those of us that have done that grind. Remember those first few weeks after maternity leave and heading back to the workforce? They were brutal and filled with so many emotions, guilt, self-doubt, but eventually, it became normal and you found your queen of everything groove.
Then the pandemic hit, and many of us had to start working remotely, juggle homeschooling, or worse, deal with the uncertainty that comes with furlough or a lay-off. Whichever fits your personal scenario, our "mom style" has had to adapt right along with the life changes, and most likely it's taken a LONG time to get used to it.
On the positive side, though, I think it's safe to say we've had the opportunity during this adaptation period to get to know our children better. 2020 allowed us the ability to discover them in ways we never realized, or indulge in moments we might have missed.
We've had more time with them, more highs and lows with them, more life experiences with them, which all essentially has allowed us to learn more from them and about them.
For me, this year of transition after lay-off has taught me a bazillion new life lessons, yet lead me through an incredible journey of personal development, especially as a mom.
Recently, on an afternoon park outing to Barber Park, my family's favorite local neighborhood spot, I was inspired to really mentally process what my kids' souls need. This of course came after a full-blown tackle football session in the large grassy soccer fields of the park, but nevertheless, it got me thinking. As a boy mom to 2 little guys ages 4 and 2, it became about processing what BOYS need. There has been a lot more "free" time to really analyze their behavior, their emotions, their personalities, and their needs. As someone who has struggled to relate to boys in the past, I decided to use my off time to lean in on the needs they were vocalizing and expressing to grow as a parent.
This is when I uncovered a few boy mom revelations.
Maybe it’s not the same for ALL boys, but mine sure seem to make it poignantly clear that there are a handful of must-haves they just need to be happy. Hopefully, these findings are relatable or at the very least, thought-provoking and encouraging for you to apply in your own way... they’re more obvious than we often realize.
The list grows every day, and some days certain things are more important than others, but what I do know is THESE 5 will never go away. Remember simple was the keyword here. So as this new year is now upon us, it's a great time to align your new normal with the chance to layer in these core needs for your little boys, as your schedule and household dynamic have most certainly experienced some type of shift.
Physicality, Fresh Air, Companionship, Nourishment, and Love. What more does a boy need?