As summer comes to an end, many families are shifting from relaxed routines, later bedtimes, and slower schedules back into school structure. While backpacks and school supplies get a lot of attention, some of the most important back-to-school preparation cannot be found in the school aisle. The skills that often make the biggest difference are the ones that help kids walk into classrooms, friendships, and new situations feeling comfortable and capable.
As an etiquette instructor and founder of Sociable, I have learned that modern manners are about much more than “please” and “thank you.” They help kids feel confident, kind, and comfortable in everyday situations. Social confidence is something children can build and practice over time.
Focusing on the following five social skills can help kids walk into the new school year with confidence and connect with new friends along the way.
1. Introduce yourself first
A simple “Hi, I’m ___” can open the door to new friendships. Sometimes confidence is simply taking the first step.
2. Being included starts with including others
Notice who may be standing alone. Invite someone into a conversation or save them a seat. Kids who make others feel comfortable often build strong friendships.
3. Looking up matters
Eye contact, smiling, and putting away distractions such as cell phones tell people, “I see you.” Small actions can make a big impact. A simple trick I teach kids is to notice someone’s eye color when meeting them or shaking their hand. It helps them slow down, stay present, and make a stronger connection.
4. Not everyone has to like you
Kindness matters, but your value does not change based on someone else’s opinion. Kids do not need to change who they are to belong. When you are yourself, you are more likely to find friendships that feel genuine and comfortable.
5. Don’t confuse awkward with failure
New classrooms, friendships, and situations can feel uncomfortable at first. One awkward moment does not define who you are. Everyone makes mistakes, and learning how to recover and keep going is an important life skill.
“Confidence doesn’t come from knowing every rule. It comes from knowing what to do next.”
Leslie Riggs is an etiquette instructor and founder of Sociable, a Rockwall-based program helping kids build confidence, kindness, and social skills through modern manners and real-life practice. Learn more at JoinSociable.com.
Modern manners are about much more than “please” and “thank you.” They help kids feel confident, kind, and comfortable in everyday situations.