From childhood, we’re taught to strive for “nice”, earning praise, presents, and approval. What if being a little “naughty” isn’t such a bad thing? Embracing both sides might be the key to a more balanced, fulfilling life - and not just at the holidays, when presents are in the balance.
The Upside of Being Nice
Being nice isn’t just about good manners; it’s a lifestyle rooted in empathy, kindness, and connection. So why live as a real-life angel?
Stronger Relationships: “Nice” people tend to be better listeners, more supportive friends, and more thoughtful partners. That emotional intelligence builds trust and deepens bonds.
Better Mental Health: Acts of kindness release feel-good hormones like oxytocin and serotonin, which can reduce stress and boost overall well-being.
Karma Points: Whether you believe in cosmic justice or the ripple effect of good deeds, being nice often leads to unexpected rewards down the line.
The Case for Being a Little Naughty
Being “naughty” doesn’t mean being cruel and reckless — it’s about challenging norms, asserting boundaries, and living boldly.
Confidence Boost: “Naughties” aren’t afraid to speak up, take risks, or stand out. That assertiveness can lead to greater self-esteem and personal growth.
Creative Freedom: Rule-breakers often think outside the box, fueling innovation and artistic expression. Some of the world’s greatest ideas came from people who didn’t play by the book.
Boundary Setting: Saying “no,” pushing back, or refusing to be taken advantage of — these are healthy forms of “naughty” that protect your time, energy, and self-worth.
The Sweet Spot: Naughty-Nice Balance
The truth is, most of us aren’t one or the other — we’re a blend. And that’s a good thing. We can be both grounded in compassion and still live authentically and fearlessly.
Ultimately, don’t stress about being perfectly nice or rebelliously naughty. The most compelling people know when to charm, when to challenge, and when to color outside the lines.
It’s a pretty good bet that Kris Kringle himself sneaks an extra cookie or two when he shouldn’t. It probably turns out that Santa’s red and green “Naughty or Nice List” has a lot of shades of gray.