In the Nebeker household, managing eight children under ten requires more than just scheduling prowess. The morning scene captures their orchestrated chaos: Whitney supervises piano practice and backpack preparation, while John handles breakfast duty, distributing eggs and toast garnished with gummy vitamins.
The Nebekers have created a home environment focused on love, belonging, and personal growth. "We go out of our way to say, 'I love you.' Kids need to hear it, and they need to know it," Whitney explains. Each day begins with family affirmations: "I am loved. I am kind. I am sunshine. I have a divine destiny." These daily rituals reinforce their family values and create a sense of unity.
Their approach to discipline reflects their focus on building relationships. When conflicts arise, particularly during car rides, the offender must list ten positive qualities about the person they've hurt. This practice often transforms tensions into moments of appreciation.
Faith and storytelling form core elements of their family culture. "We want our kids to grow in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and others around them. They may not remember everything we teach them, but hopefully they'll remember how they feel," John shares. The family discusses faith during dinner, shares family stories at bedtime, and ensures each child develops skills in music, sports, and etiquette.
"When you hear others cheering for your children, there's nothing we wouldn't do for them," Whitney notes about their supportive community in Gilbert. As one of the top financial advisors in the country with Eagle Strategies LLC, John brings his professional expertise home, emphasizing teaching financial responsibility and helping their children develop entrepreneurial skills from age eight. While their household may be chaotic at times, their commitment to love and continuous improvement creates a foundation for their children's future success.