We live in a world where we are unknowingly fighting to be seen, to be validated, and to know that where we spend our time actually matters. We are taught at a young age that working hard will lead to success, which is often defined as wealth and recognition. When I was kicked off my college lacrosse team, after years of committing myself to the sport, I was told that hard work does not always mean success—and it shattered me.
After sacrificing friendships, sleep, and free time for early practices, training sessions, and tournaments, it was all ripped away in an instant. Everything I had poured myself into for years was suddenly gone.
However, what I once saw as loss, I now understand to be God’s protection and redirection. In hindsight, I see the depression, anxiety, disordered eating, and inner chaos that college sports caused me. My entire identity had become wrapped up in performance—striving for approval and chasing self-worth through achievement.
Yes, work is absolutely honoring to God, but our identity is to be found in Him, not rooted in external validation. We were never meant to chase worth; we were created to carry light. Our identity should never rest in what can be taken from us—a title, a job, or a person. God is not looking for performance. He desires intimacy with you.
In the Bible, the Lord refers to us as His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10). And just as art does not strive—it reflects beauty, inspires others, and brings forth fruit merely by existing—God sees us as precious works of art just as we are.
One of the most powerful gifts we can give our daughters is a grounded identity in Christ—a vision of beauty rooted in truth, not performance. When we know who we are in Him, the world loses its power to define us. When we live for an audience of One, all the things the world tells us to chase—love, approval, belonging—begin to lose their grip. He already offers those things freely, and they are permanent, unconditional, and eternal.
We are not here to perform for the world or win its approval; we are here to reflect the heart of God. When our daughters understand that, they become immovable—unshaken by trends or opinions and full of purpose that cannot be stripped away.
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“Come On, Somebody” Podcast
After a handful of hair appointments and meaningful conversations in Madison Perata’s chair at Blushing Belle Salon, Kelsey Daniels and Perata discovered a shared love for Jesus. They held a deep desire to teach others about the miracle-working power of the Holy Spirit and how their faith had radically transformed their lives.
Together, they launched the “Come On, Somebody” podcast to shine a light on the goodness of God. Their hope is that, regardless of a listener’s past or present, they will come to understand that Jesus loves them and longs to have a relationship with them. God is always fighting on their behalf, and no one is too broken or too far gone for His love to reach.