Do you ever feel like, no matter how hard you try, something still feels “off”? Like you’re doing the workouts, wearing the outfits—but you still don’t feel confident in your skin?
That’s the friction of misalignment.
It happens when we think there’s a “right way” to look, dress, or train. We start copying what worked for someone else—on social media, in a magazine, or for that guy at the gym—and assume that if we just do that, we’ll finally feel good in our bodies.
But it doesn’t work that way.
When you’re trying to fit into someone else’s mold, you’re abandoning your own identity. And that disconnection shows up everywhere, from how you move and dress to how you carry yourself.
You might punish yourself with workouts that don’t fit your lifestyle or body. Or you could spend way too much money on clothes that look great on a mannequin but leave you feeling awkward and unsure.
The problem isn’t your effort; it’s your reference point.
The solution? Play your own game.
Instead of chasing someone else’s version of fitness or fashion, ask a better question: Who am I, and how do I want to show up?
When your training supports your real-life goals—and your style reflects your real personality—you feel right. You become more open, confident, and at ease in your skin. Not because you hit some perfect standard, but because you’re aligned.
Alignment isn’t about impressing others. It’s about being honest with yourself and letting that truth show in how you move and what you wear.
So no, you don’t need to deadlift 500 pounds or rock designer labels to feel powerful. You just have to show up in a way that feels real.
The most magnetic version of you is the one who knows who he is—and lives like it.
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