Many people face the question, “Who is your role model?” at least once in their lives. From a young age, humans crave mentorship and people to be inspired by. In the digital age of social media influencers and increased screen time, people are in need more than ever of simple human connection. Big Brothers Big Sisters of Northwest Montana is working to provide children and young adults with just that: connection.
Executive Director Danielle Kelly looks over the NW Montana division of the Big Brothers Big Sisters organization. This encompasses the Flathead Valley, Missoula, and surrounding areas. Big Brothers Big Sisters operates by matching up an adult with a child seeking mentorship, thus creating the core of their foundation. The adult represents a Big Brother or Sister, and the child or young adult represents the Little seeking a mentor.
Many Littles have Adverse Childhood Experiences, also known as ACE. This is an experience that could potentially have negative short and long-term effects on their development. The positive effects of a mentor in their life showcase many statistical improvements to better mental health and overall well-being.
The organization has two different ways to be involved: community-based or the school-based program. The community program allows Bigs to connect with their Littles for two to four hours throughout the week. This program involves more parent or guardian involvement with the planning and approval of activities in the area. The school-based program gives a Big an hour once per week to connect with their Little at the school where he or she attends. Both programs require a one-year minimum commitment to ensure the consistency and growth of the relationship. The Big Brothers Big Sisters team goes through a detailed process—an intensive background check and questionnaire—to help benefit the compatibility of each match.
“Many Bigs who volunteer say, ‘I learned more from my Little than I think my Little learned from me,’” Danielle said.
That is certainly the case for pair Emily and her Little Autumn. Emily is 23 and Autumn is 12, and the two have been paired up for almost a year.
Emily spends her days working in business operations for several different companies in the valley while also enjoying her time outdoors. Autumn enjoys art class at school and spends lots of time painting and drawing in her free time. Both girls love being creative and adventurous.
“Autumn is just about the most considerate and loving person I have ever met. The second I met her, she ran up and gave me a hug. It’s been joy and happiness ever since," said Emily.
The two giggled throughout the interview, chatting together and reminiscing on their memories of the waterpark, pizza nights, and going through moments both good and bad. Emily emphasized how special it was to support Autumn through all seasons of life. Their conversation was filled with advice, laughter, and fond memories.
“As an adult with responsibilities, you take things for granted,” Emily started. “But when you spend time with Autumn, it becomes so much more joyful, and you realize how blessed you are.”
When Autumn was asked what she liked about Emily, she said all she needed to in three simple words.
“She’s the best,” she exclaimed.
The two showcase the true beauty behind the Big Brothers Big Sisters mission: a positive role model to count on, to laugh with, and experience the highs and lows of life. Emily and Autumn show how an afternoon hanging out at the park can change the wellbeing of children and adults alike.