Many children have learned racial bias simply through facial recognition by 3 months of age, and prior to age 3, can start developing their own racial biases they see and experience around them.
The year 2020 has been riddled with complexities and challenges that have reshaped both how we operate as a society, and how we explore the concept of race and racism in America. Once again, our country has been presented with an opportunity, and this opportunity, to deliberately impact change, starts with you. Children learn first and foremost from the behaviors of their original teachers, their parents and other close family members. And trust me when I tell you this, they notice everything from your body language, to your words, and your conscious or unconscious fear that arises when you’re engaging with someone Black or others of color.
Talking about race can be frightening for many. Over the past couple months, young people have been involved in mourning the loss of Black Americans to unnecessary violence, as our country navigates the path forward without pausing to consider the impacts these traumatic modern events have had on our kids, and their direct connection to how it impacts their lives and futures. It is critical that we convert our silence into discussion, empathy, action, and disruption. Please note, these conversations are not reserved only for families of students of color, but for ALL students, including those in predominantly white schools and communities. You are responsible for helping our youth build their capacity to understand and confront racism and contribute to a society where justice and equality prevail.
My ask? What steps will you take to serve our kids and provide a platform for them to learn and grow from what history tells us is normal? Together, we can build a world free of racism, oppression, and discrimination.
+ Be aware of biases you may bring to the conversation
This will take building personal awareness and seeking multiple perspectives on the views you have about people and their experiences. This is most affective when you have an accountability partner you trust, that can aid you in consciousness building.
+ Ask you youth about their feelings
Children today, whether we know it or not, are having conversations about race/racism, things they see on television, things they believe, and more. Often amongst themselves, with limited guidance from an adult and/or loved one. It’s important to be a part of the conversation.
+ Practice scenarios with your youth
What would you do in this situation? How would you change the outcome? There questions allow you to both monitor and practice you own response to a challenging situation, and also provide coaching and support to your youth.
+ Diversify your life
Broaden your perspectives by seeking out authors, artists, directors, media personalities of color. Also, don’t be afraid to identify and discuss racism and prejudice you see in movies and television you may watch more regularly. This is a great way to help kids build their anti-racism muscle.