Self-worth shapes how we navigate life—our relationships, decisions, and sense of fulfillment. Yet, for many, it feels tied to achievement, external validation, or meeting others’ expectations. True self-worth, however, isn’t something that needs to be earned; it’s an inherent part of who we are. When people begin to recognize their own value, they set healthier boundaries, cultivate deeper connections, and make choices that align with their well-being rather than fear or obligation. Shifting into this mindset isn’t always easy, but it can transform how we show up in the world.
Victoria Grimm, founder of VG Therapy Collective, has dedicated her career to helping people make that shift. With a background in the military and a passion for mental health, she brings a direct yet compassionate approach to therapy. Her practice is designed for high achievers who often feel pressure to have it all figured out, providing a space where they can explore self-worth, build emotional safety, and create meaningful, lasting change in their lives.
Q: How do you define self-worth, and how is it different from confidence or self-esteem?
A: Self-worth is the foundation—it’s the belief that you are valuable simply because you exist. Confidence is tied to success in specific areas, and self-esteem is shaped by external validation. Self-worth, however, remains steady and influences how we set boundaries, make decisions, and engage in relationships.
Q: What personal experiences have most significantly shaped your understanding of self-worth?
A: Self-worth is something I had to learn firsthand. Joining the military at 18 was a defining experience. In that environment, you learn quickly how to trust yourself, advocate for your needs, and push through challenges most people will never face. That shaped how I view resilience. Later, starting my own private practice was another test of self-worth. Building something from the ground up requires unwavering belief in yourself, even when uncertainty is high. I had to trust that what I was building mattered. These experiences reinforced that self-worth isn’t about external validation—it’s about knowing you are capable and deserving, even when no one is watching.
Q: What keeps people from recognizing their inherent value?
A: Many grow up believing love must be earned—through achievement, caretaking, or minimizing their needs. As adults, they push themselves in careers and relationships but still feel it’s not enough. True self-worth begins when they realize their value isn’t something to prove—it has always existed.
Q: How does self-worth affect personal relationships?
A: It changes everything. When someone values themselves, they no longer tolerate unhealthy dynamics or relationships based on obligation. They communicate openly, set boundaries without guilt, and attract deeper, more fulfilling connections.
Q: What does investing in self-worth look like in practical terms?
A: It’s engaging in activities that reinforce your value—like therapy, setting boundaries, and personal growth. It’s a commitment to prioritizing yourself in ways that build lasting confidence and emotional clarity.
Q: How does self-worth impact careers?
A: People stop overworking for validation and start making choices aligned with their values and long-term goals rather than seeking approval or external success.
"Self-worth isn’t about proving yourself—it’s about knowing you are enough, even when no one’s watching." _Victoria Grimm