Self-investment for Health and Happiness
When your life is full of commitments, responsibilities, and distractions, it can be easy to let self-care fall by the wayside. But putting yourself at the top of your priority list delivers a wealth of advantages.
Dallas Pilecki, M. Ed., LMHC is the co-owner of Serendipity Psych in Westfield. He encourages people to recognize the value of self-care. “The best investment we can make is in ourselves,” says Dallas, “because it allows us to be better for everyone else in our lives. You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
Individuals may hit a low point before recognizing the problem. Self-care can fall to the wayside for many years when work and family needs take priority, and that can lead to low mood, irritability, and feeling a sense of loss or lack of joy.
“It’s not selfish to invest in yourself,” says Dallas. “If you’re happy and investing in yourself and you’re making progress, others will see that.” He notes that being a healthier person with better boundaries makes your relationships healthier.
Dallas identifies mind, body, and spirit as the three components of self-investment. Care of the mind might be through professional development or adding more knowledge, including focusing on your hobbies and interests. Body care refers to physical health: creating good sleep hygiene and being active. Spiritual care addresses emotional and spiritual needs and can incorporate activities like journaling, meditation, and yoga.
There are four initial steps to prioritize self-care:
1) Define your goals for personal growth and pinpoint areas you want to focus on first.
2) Take a tangible step toward one of these goals within 48 hours. Start with a small, achievable task to gain momentum.
3) Dedicate the next three to four weeks to prioritize self-care by scheduling activities aligned with your goals. Mindful scheduling makes your objectives meaningful and facilitates lasting change.
4) Share your goal and action plan with someone close to you. Rather than seeking accountability, sharing your self-care journey is happy news to tell someone who cares about you.
Happiness for the Long Term
Dallas sees meaningful connections between family and friends as being a key ingredient to a happy life.
Being in the moment to create memories and family traditions can bring deep satisfaction.
“Meaningfulness comes through being present, not treating events and commitments as a burden,” explains Dallas. “If you’re there, be there, and do not let distractions creep in.”
Relationships require investment, too. Open communication is one of the top priorities for a relationship. Holding in emotions and frustrations can lead to resentment, according to Dallas.
“Sometimes we feel unheard, but we never gave people a chance to hear us.” Planning time for check-ins helps avoid those frustrations.
“People always want more chances to make memories,” notes Dallas, “but if we can be more present, we have the potential to create them every day.”
"Meaningfulness comes through being present, not treating events and commitments as a burden."- Dallas Pilecki
