Generosity and sharing are not always easy for young children to understand and they do not come easily due to the developmental stage of poor impulse control. However, they both can be learned.
Children need to understand the needs and feelings of others which helps them build positive relationships, therefore, generosity is an important social skill and there are ways to help children understand the positive effects of being generous.
The holiday season is a perfect time to show children how good it feels to give to others. There are books that underscore the joy of giving and sharing; Little Robin’s Christmas, by Jan Fearnley, and Pass it On, by Sophy Henn, are two books I would recommend.
Sharing is also difficult for young children and can be learned by example. Some of the things that parents can model for their children may be sharing a talent you have with your child’s class at school or baking cookies together as holiday gifts. Sharing non-material things, such as feelings, while taking turns telling each other what you are thankful for at the dinner table sets an example too. You may want to help your child make a care package for a sick friend. Of course, having your child see you model your participation in charitable events will also send a strong message.
Finally, explaining to your child that they may not always get thanked for their sharing, giving help, or their generosity is vital. It should not discourage them or negate their gift, because giving something without thought of return is true generosity.
Christina Miller, Owner/Head of School: Millhopper Montessori School, LLC.