In a world that often rushes toward independence and individualism, the warmth, joy, and chaos of a big family can be a refreshing reminder of what truly matters. For Preservation Co. owners Christa and Jason, raising 13 children has meant and abundance of laughter, shared moments, and a whole lot of teamwork. As their family grows into the next generation, they reflect on the traditions, faith, and flexibility that continue to anchor their extraordinary journey.
Looking back, what has been the most rewarding part of raising a big family?
I’d say the most rewarding part about having a big family is that there’s never a lack of love or a lonely moment. The downside is somedays you may crave a moment alone, but it can be hard to find! But in all seriousness, everyone looks out for each other and watching them become true friends is amazing. The camaraderie brings so much joy.
How has your family dynamic evolved as your children have grown up and started families of their own?
As three of our kids have gotten married over the past year and have started their own families, it’s surreal to think that the next generation has actually begun. Imagining our kids getting married and having children used to be something we’d dream & joke about. We’d wonder how many grandchildren we might have. Now we have 1 newborn grandson & a granddaughter coming in August. The fact that the Lord continues to bless us, despite our many shortcomings as parents is so humbling.
Our dynamics have changed a bit as adding more people, schedules, and in-laws require more flexibility. We learned from our parents to not be too particular or dead set on everyone being at a particular event or the event happening exactly the same each time. Traditions are wonderful, but can cause sadness too when everyone can’t make it. Just be happy with whoever can come and take the family picture anyway. It’ll be rare when we’re all actually together and when it does happen it’ll just be all the sweeter.
What family traditions have stood the test of time and how do you keep them alive?
If you ask anyone in our family, they’d most likely say that Thanksgiving is their favorite holiday. The kids love setting & decorating tables all over our house with glass dishes, goblets & specially folded cloth napkins. The entire extended family gathers at our house (usually around 100 people!), to reflex on God’s blessings, eat good food, relax, play some football & take photos with our live turkey “Mr Jones”’ It’s nice to have a gathering where the only “agenda” is enjoying each others company.
What advice would you give to parents or grandparents who are just beginning their journey with a large family?
The advice someone gave us once was- no matter how many kids you have they take all your time and all your money! So don’t sweat it. But in all seriousness, we trust and rely on the Lord to provide for our needs. He’s never let us down.
Also, flexibility is a big asset. It’s great to have a plan, but it seems in our little world “the plan” changes often and being okay with deviations can greatly increase mental stability haha. I tell myself I have an “outline” for the day and not a schedule. That way if it all didn’t go according to plan I’m still fine with myself.
In what ways has having a large family enriched your life and your perspective on parenthood?
Both Jason & I are the second oldest of 7 kids. Our families actually grew up together since we were 3 & 4 years old as our parents were close friends. We both loved all the fun & chaos that came with being around all our siblings. We dreamer about how many kids we thought we’d have one day & we both said 6 or 7. Well, we both got what we each wanted & ended up with 13! But, it isn’t until you’re actually a parent that you realize just how much your parents love you & sacrificed for you. And in turn you realize how much your Heavenly Father loves you & His great sacrifice for you. It’s a beautiful picture.
What common misconceptions about large families would you like to clear up?
Well, it’s definitely not cheaper by the dozen! Ha ha. Also, life doesn’t have to be as chaotic as the movies portray big families either.
How do you manage day to day responsibilities such as school and dinner and laundry alongside running a successful family business?
We couldn’t do it if everyone didn’t pitch in and help out. The kids are hard workers, and help with most of the household chores and also work at our store as they get older. Age 8 & up are responsible for their own laundry, typically one child helps me (Christa) make supper, but on busy nights, you’ll often find us at one of our local favorites Little Rosie’s!, the boys mow and weed eat, while the girls take care of the flower beds, different ones take care of the cows, chickens, dog & cats. It’s an all hands on deck approach to life. And the key is a good attitude- which some days is better than others. We’re always working on that.