Family changes can be challenging at any time, but the holidays bring their own unique complexities. From Halloween to New Year’s Eve, the festive season often demands joy, even amid personal strife. At the Segalas Law Firm in Hillsdale, divorce attorney Steven Segalas shares insights on how parents can manage the emotional landscape of blended families while keeping the holiday spirit alive for their children.
Meet Steven Segalas
Steven Segalas is driven by a passion for advocating for those in need, making family law his focus. After nearly 20 years at a larger firm, he founded his own practice on December 31, 2017, to provide personalized, client-centered service. Segalas believes family law is “the most human part of the practice,” allowing him to understand his clients as individuals—their fears, hopes, and goals for themselves and their children. He sees his role as a protector during his clients' most vulnerable moments.
Navigating Relationship Changes
Segalas notes that uncertainty can feel overwhelming, especially when parents are at different emotional stages. Traditions that once defined family life may shift, leaving both adults and children uncertain about their new roles. He emphasizes that “with virtually every holiday, there is some sort of emergency” that arises, underscoring the unpredictability parents may face. His own experiences as a stepfather have deepened his empathy for families sharing time between households, especially during this sensitive time of year.
Holiday Parenting Advice
How can struggling parents effectively manage the holiday season while maintaining the spirit for their children? Segalas emphasizes the importance of clear communication about plans and schedules. “Keep things as smooth and cheerful for the kids as you can,” he advises. Discuss traditions—what will stay the same and what will change—in advance to avoid misunderstandings.
Parents should reassure their children that love remains constant, even as the family structure evolves. Segalas encourages parents to focus on being present rather than being right, highlighting the joys that arise from shared experiences, even if those experiences look different than they did before.
Common Challenges During the Holidays
A common challenge during the holidays is a lack of communication. Segalas emphasizes the importance of maintaining a respectful atmosphere, encouraging parents to avoid negative comments about one another in front of the kids. Establishing ground rules for discussions fosters a supportive environment and helps everyone navigate the season more smoothly.
The Evolving Family Law Landscape
Segalas highlights the evolving nature of family law, especially in the post-pandemic world, with many court proceedings now taking place online. This shift has shown that creative solutions can emerge even in challenging times. New Jersey is leading the way in progressive family law, focusing on fair parenting arrangements that put children’s needs first. Segalas has seen firsthand how these approaches can lead to positive outcomes, allowing families to enjoy the holidays in a more natural and stress-free way.
Staying Grounded During the Holidays
For families going through a difficult time this holiday season, Segalas offers a crucial piece of advice: “Stay in the moment.” Focus on what you can control and prioritize your children's happiness and your own mental well-being. This approach can make the holidays more manageable—and even brighter for everyone involved.
Segalas recognizes that the emotional challenges of family transitions can sometimes lead to feelings of loneliness, especially during a season centered around togetherness. He encourages families to maintain hope, assuring them that it’s possible to navigate this difficult time with grace. The Segalas Law Firm stands ready to guide clients through the legal maze of family law, bringing an extra measure of empathy to ensure tidings of comfort—and perhaps even joy—this holiday season.
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“Keep things as smooth and cheerful for the kids as you can." - Steven Segalas