Whether it’s a child’s first school, a new school, or simply back to school, a new academic year can bring nerves—and excited anticipation—for kids and parents. Jennifer Tommasini, owner of The Gift of Kids Daycare & Preschool in El Dorado Hills has helped lots of littles adjust to their new environment—lots of older children, too. (In addition to preschool and daycare for babies and toddlers, The Gift of Kids runs private kindergarten and after-school care for elementary school students.)
“Kids need to feel loved, confident, and know they can trust the new endeavor,” says Tommasini. “I find counting down exciting for kids,” she says.
Following, Tommasini answers some questions about helping children make the transition to a new school year.
How can parents help kids conquer anxiety about the new year?
Create a way to make the transition exciting as opposed to scary. Creating a safe place to talk about their anxiety can also help. Talk about situations kids think can happen, and practice what they can do differently or better. It’s fun to role-play scenarios with your kids—for example, to practice conversations to make friends.
How can parents prepare toddlers or preschoolers for more structure and routine?
A structured routine at home can always help with preschool structure. Talk about what to expect. Let kids know they will be napping. Most preschools will have their structured day posted so that parents can talk about or follow the mealtimes.
Any tips for dealing with separation anxiety in the early days?
Visiting the place your child will be attending can be helpful. Talk with the providers who will be caring for your child and work together to see what is best.
How can parents motivate older students to open up about their new school situation?
Be positive, asking questions about their day. For kids who always say, “I don’t know,” or just “good,” parents are the best examples. In my household, we take turns around the dinner table. Dad or Mom goes first to show how it’s done. We have prompts of “best part of the day,” “worst part of the day,” and “something you would change.” My kids have told me they can’t wait to share because of this dinner habit.
What are some helpful ways to set expectations around homework and after-school routines?
Limiting screen time is always helpful. Finishing homework first before screen time can be a very healthy habit, and having a set time so kids aren’t rushing through their homework.
What’s some advice you give parents as the new school year approaches?
Set new goals to accomplish for the year, new expectations, new traditions—such as two weeks before school starts getting some new clothes or taking a family trip. Have playdates with friends to help with social anxiety. Make a jar and write things on paper on the first day of school that everyone looks at on the last day of school.
Talk about situations kids think can happen, and practice what they can do differently or better.